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DaCardician New user 10 Posts |
Hi all,
My name is Aaron and I have been browsing the magic Café for some time now, and just decided to join in with this little community. I have been doing magic on and off now for around 15 years. I would say I am a professional level hobbyist, and am at that stage where this year I want to start doing paid gigs. I have had so many requests over the last few years to do magic for bars, weddings and other venues, but I have a couple of irrational fears - fear is probably the wrong word though. 1) I have struggled to associate with magicians in the past. I don't know why. I don't have a single friend within the magic community - sometimes I think that is a good thing. As 100% of my feedback is from real laypeople. I'm not interested in magic for magicians. But it also means I haven't had the right kind of support when wanting to push myself to move into becoming a professional. And I now need that. 2) While I am very confident performing, and can easily hold a large crowds attention for half an hour of close up magic, I have a real problem approaching people I don't know. Always have. So when the requests come in for me to go out perform in a paid environment, I shy away for the simple fact that while I can perform a set.. how am I going to approach a table / crowd in the first place. As I said.. I feel it is quite irrational.. and this is the year I am going to change that.. somehow. It's the one barrier I have. I have a Youtube channel where I would like to go out and perform close up magic for people and I could then edit those videos and upload them to YT and social media. But the 2 things above stop me. In the years I have been observing the Magic Café from a distance, I know this community can be both very helpful and also very argumentative.. but I hope to add some value to this community and perhaps get some help to overcome the 2 barriers to me doing what I have wanted to do for the last 10 years. Not sure what else to say so I will leave it there. Username was chosen for the simple fact the the previous 150 or so usernames I came up with were taken lol |
Mary Mowder Inner circle Sacramento / Elk Grove, CA 3659 Posts |
Welcome DaCardician,
There are more than a few threads on breaking the ice or making the approach etc. Opinions vary widely so there is hope in that several different approaches work, depending on your personality. Your hurtle is the same many in Magic have faced and there are many performing Magicians. So, clearly many have made the jump (and many weren't nearly as skilled as you sound when they did it). I don't want to derail the "Our New Arrivals" forum to make suggestions ((a mistake I made just last week. LOL) but I do want to offer hope and suggest a few searches. It can help to think of the most fearful challenge you've faced (Armed service, care for a sick loved one, car trouble in the barren wastes, first day of high school, etc...) and see that this is really nothing compared to the really hard things you've ALREADY done in your life. Best of Luck. -Mary Mowder |
DaCardician New user 10 Posts |
Thanks Mary..
I am just a naturally shy person.. until introductions are made (usually by someone else.. or if I'm approached after just showboating alone). It took me 5 years to work up the courage to say hi to my wife when I first met her. Actually it was her that approached me in the end. She hated that I did magic. Since my divorce 1 yr ago.. I haven't introduced myself to one single person. I suppose I am just going to have to bite the bullet and conquer it this year. I fear nothing except rejection.. and spiders naturally.. and have never faced a spider head on.. well that's a lie.. I did exactly that. I played a Virtual Reality Spider Game a few weeks back and nearly had a full blown heart attack. I do not recommend! I'll go look up a few of those threads here and see what's being said. Thanks for the welcome Mary |
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