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Topic: Found in their eyes
Message: Posted by: l1b3rty (Aug 18, 2007 05:05PM)
Hey guys,
I'm a beginner as you can see, I know a few tricks that involve reading body language, but I'm nowhere near good at it.

Any advice on what to look for on their body or in their eyes that can be a sure-fire way to know what they're going to do/ are thinking?
Message: Posted by: Jaz (Aug 18, 2007 06:55PM)
Reading about Neuro Linquistic Programming (NLP) can help.
A Google search for 'reading body language' may turn up some articles.

Welcome to the Café.
Message: Posted by: Andy the cardician (Aug 18, 2007 08:10PM)
Seems like you are interested in Mentalism . . . In that case I can recommend Corindas book 13 STEPS . . .

Message: Posted by: Corey Harris (Aug 18, 2007 08:54PM)
If you go to your a bookstore like Barnes & Noble or Borders and go into the business Management section, You can find books on how to read body language. I cant think of the names of any right off the top of my head though. Also, sometimes you can find free classes locally on reading body language for businesses. I had to take a class when I got into banking.
Message: Posted by: wardini (Aug 18, 2007 09:03PM)
In the context that you mean there is no 'sure fire' way of knowing what someone is going to do from body language. I am far from expert but I have done some research in this area. There are all sorts of signals you can pick up, eye movement supressed facial expressions, stance etc but you should normally use several 'clustered' signals to try and gauge a feeling/response. ie. arms crossed is a defensive closed off posture but it can also be done just because the person is cold.

I would suggest some general reading on body languade then sitting in the pub and people watching.
Message: Posted by: Father Photius (Aug 18, 2007 09:17PM)
Body language is only reliable in context of the situation, a lot of body language books don't teach that. In psychology we were trained to take note of patients body language as well as what they were saying to guage their responses. I discovered over years of practice that much of the "standard" of body language goes out the window as the context in which it is being used changes, as well as the overall emotional state of the person observed. Yes clenched fists indicate anger, aggression, frustration,etc. But, I've seen that with joy, fear, disgust, etc. You have to take a lot of cues from the person you are observing, everything from voice pitch and volume, speed of speech, amount of speech, eye contact, distance from observer or person with whom they are interacting, and types of words they are using, so many things. Sometimes just a lot of people watching helps more than the books.
Message: Posted by: l1b3rty (Aug 19, 2007 07:06PM)
Wow, thanks a lot guys. I got a lot more information than I thought I would get.

People here are really helpful.