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Topic: Magic vs. Girlfriend
Message: Posted by: Douglas Lippert (May 19, 2009 11:09PM)
Any of you ever lose a girlfriend/boyfriend wife/husband due to your magic obsession? It contributed to my most recent relationship demise. She even said that Paul Harris was my lover. Haha, ouch.

The breakup really hurt and now magic gives me a bitter taste. I can barely look at a deck of cards or my Lassen coin gaffs the same way...

Any advice from the more experienced magi?
Message: Posted by: MagicSanta (May 19, 2009 11:16PM)
You broke up over Paul Harris? What a waste.
Message: Posted by: JoeJoe (May 19, 2009 11:17PM)
My ex-girlfriend knew I was already married to my magic and to her ... our relationship felt like an affair. Oh well ... nothing I can do about that. It's what I am ... it's what I do. Can't change that. :(

-JoeJoe
Message: Posted by: Douglas Lippert (May 19, 2009 11:18PM)
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On 2009-05-20 00:16, MagicSanta wrote:
You broke up over Paul Harris? What a waste.
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Haha..no. Lots of things but she started to get tired of my practicing all the time and showing her tricks. (note to self, show restraint!)


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On 2009-05-20 00:17, JoeJoe wrote:
Can't change that. :(
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We shouldn't have to. We just gotta find a woman that REALLY likes magic, and makin' magic? ;) (sly dog me) Some married magicians say their wives "put up with it". Ouch!
Message: Posted by: Daegs (May 20, 2009 12:03AM)
Much of being in a marriage is "putting up with" things the spouse does / likes.....
Message: Posted by: Josh Chaikin (May 20, 2009 03:16PM)
My solution is to not show any tricks, it seems to work well. Did well enough with my last relationship, but that ended for different reasons.

It's okay to have an obsession with magic, just have time for both and don't let the two overlap much.
Message: Posted by: JoeJoe (May 20, 2009 03:49PM)
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On 2009-05-20 01:03, Daegs wrote:
Much of being in a marriage is "putting up with" things the spouse does / likes.....
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Tell that to "them" ... not us.

-JoeJoe
Message: Posted by: gaddy (May 20, 2009 03:57PM)
****I'm lucky! My wife continually pushes me to perform more and to practice more...
Message: Posted by: Bill Lhotta (May 20, 2009 04:17PM)
Try to stay more balanced Doug. Your hobby is not worth the loss of a good relationship.

There have been some VERY famous magicians who were awful husbands and fathers. I won't disparage their names here or open that can of worms. But you really don't want to aspire to be just like them, it's not worth it in my opinion.

Again the key is balance. Balance the yin with the yang and you will be much more fulfilled in life. You can have it both ways.

Cheers!

** Bill **
Message: Posted by: Douglas Lippert (May 20, 2009 06:03PM)
You're 100% right Bill. I need to balance things in my life starting today. Carpe Diem..

Take care,
Message: Posted by: Steve_Mollett (May 20, 2009 06:17PM)
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On 2009-05-20 16:57, gaddy wrote:
**** I'm lucky! My wife continually pushes me to perform more and to practice more...
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So does mine.
Message: Posted by: MagicSanta (May 20, 2009 06:39PM)
You all are talking about magic right?
Message: Posted by: GeorgeG (May 20, 2009 10:03PM)
I keep my magic in the "background" so that my wife doesn't know, care, and interfere.
Note: I try to get any packages with magic quickly and stealthly into my collection when they arrive (wife never checks the front door steps, but I do, so I don't hear, "is that more of your magic stuff...where do get the money to buy all that stuff")
Message: Posted by: Decibel33 (May 21, 2009 12:01AM)
I recently saw a Dr. Phill episode about a pianist who wanted to make a carreer with his music. His family was falling apart due to it. His wife was ready to leave him, hence the reason they were on an international councelling show!

Anyway, Dr. Phil told this man that he doesn't have to give up his dreams, but that he needs to have his priorities set right. Take care of business at home first and foremost...then take care of all other business.
Message: Posted by: Eddie Torres (May 21, 2009 03:51AM)
Get a regular gig at a restaurant or volunteer your services at a nursing home or child care place on a regular basis, I know that once I started doing it regularly over and over again I didn't really care to keep harrassing my loved ones with every new trick I had learned.
Message: Posted by: Bill Nuvo (May 21, 2009 06:25AM)
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On 2009-05-20 19:17, Steve_Mollett wrote:
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On 2009-05-20 16:57, gaddy wrote:
**** I'm lucky! My wife continually pushes me to perform more and to practice more...
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So does mine.
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Hmmmmm,..., so she's getting you out of the house....hmmmmm. :)
Message: Posted by: Ken Northridge (May 21, 2009 07:41AM)
My marriage ended, in part, due to magic. Not so much my obsession to it, but the fact that it did not produce a Donald Trump like income.

For every girl who dose not like magic there is at least one who loves magic and will share it with you and support you. I found this out in my second marriage.

Still, Bill's advice on balance is very important. Enough is enough. Know when to put it away and share in her interests.
Message: Posted by: Michael Baker (May 21, 2009 11:40AM)
After 18 years of marraige, my wife's tolerance for magic has taken the following forms:

1) Thinking I was some kind of sexy human

2) Wanting to help me better my career as a magician

3) Being jealous over my job impressing other women in bars (even though it was to get their dates to leave me a huge tip

4) Realizing that it was like having your elderly parent move in with you (only death would eventually separate you)

I then began to realize that the true interpretation for her question, "How was your show?", was actually, "Have you made the mortgage payment yet?"

Fortunately (in a twisted sort of way), our teenage son's butthead antics are a wonderful diversion, keeping her tolerance level of magic, let's say, distracted.

Actually, it's all a matter of balancing her interests, mine, our son's, and the bottom line for the family.
Message: Posted by: Chad C. (May 21, 2009 03:29PM)
I don't show my wife very many tricks repeatedly. I usually practice, show her once, and if she is impressed and doesn't know how I did it - I then dance around for a second like an idiot then go and put the trick away never to show her again - so at least I'll have a few tricks that she doesn't know how it's done.

Getting back to the question - my wife loves my magic when she asks me, "How much did you make from doing that show?"

Now, if I were doing this as only a hobby and still trying to show her everything like I did when I first started years ago - she would hate it!

She also now trusts me when I go and spend money on magic because she knows it will pay for itself over and over again!

But yes, I would not go and introduce yourself to you next girlfriend by showing her a magic trick - at least not at first! First, take her to see a live Monday Night Raw! Heck yeah!

Chad
Message: Posted by: MagicSanta (May 21, 2009 04:09PM)
I never show my wife tricks cuz she hates both me and magic. I do vent my dogs though and I'll have them go with me to see her and they will say they are doing a trick but because they lack thumbs I'll be doing the handling for them. Then the dog walks me through the trick. If it is good she'll tell the dog how wonderful it was.
Message: Posted by: Magnus Eisengrim (May 21, 2009 05:03PM)
My wife won't let me have a girlfriend. But from what I recall, they were way better than magic.

John
Message: Posted by: Steve_Mollett (May 21, 2009 06:36PM)
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On 2009-05-21 07:25, Bill Nuvo wrote:
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On 2009-05-20 19:17, Steve_Mollett wrote:
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On 2009-05-20 16:57, gaddy wrote:
**** I'm lucky! My wife continually pushes me to perform more and to practice more...
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So does mine.
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Hmmmmm,..., so she's getting you out of the house....hmmmmm. :)
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She goes with me. :)
Message: Posted by: Douglas Lippert (May 22, 2009 12:16AM)
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On 2009-05-21 17:09, MagicSanta wrote:
I never show my wife tricks cuz she hates both me and magic. I do vent my dogs though and I'll have them go with me to see her and they will say they are doing a trick but because they lack thumbs I'll be doing the handling for them. Then the dog walks me through the trick. If it is good she'll tell the dog how wonderful it was.
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Hahaha, your posts always brighten my day. :)


I've read all the comments on this thread a few times and have made a few mental notes for the future. Thank you very much fellas.

Sincerely,
Message: Posted by: Douglas Lippert (May 28, 2009 11:27PM)
Anyone know any good break up songs? Only one I can think of is Eamon (I don't want you back).
Message: Posted by: ceme20 (May 29, 2009 04:58AM)
A joke to lighten the moment--Your dog is barking at the back door and your wife is yelling at the front door....which one do you let in?









Your dog. He will shut up once he is inside!!! :)
Message: Posted by: ceme20 (May 29, 2009 05:07AM)
You hang in there Doug...I have been there, and believe me the light at the end of the tunnel is well worth waiting for. . .
Message: Posted by: RJE (May 29, 2009 09:37PM)
My wife and I are a magic team, hence Evans & Evans.

We enjoy touring, performing and creating new and fun routines. Our house and life is filled with magic. It's a great life!!! :)
Message: Posted by: C-Taylor (May 31, 2009 10:12AM)
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On 2009-05-21 17:09, MagicSanta wrote:
I never show my wife tricks cuz she hates both me and magic. I do vent my dogs though and I'll have them go with me to see her and they will say they are doing a trick but because they lack thumbs I'll be doing the handling for them. Then the dog walks me through the trick. If it is good she'll tell the dog how wonderful it was.
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This is the best post on the Café!
Message: Posted by: Douglas Lippert (Jun 15, 2009 12:09AM)
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On 2009-05-20 00:09, Doug Lippert wrote:
Any of you ever lose a girlfriend/boyfriend wife/husband due to your magic obsession? It contributed to my most recent relationship demise. She even said that Paul Harris was my lover. Haha, ouch.

The breakup really hurt and now magic gives me a bitter taste. I can barely look at a deck of cards or my Lassen coin gaffs the same way...

Any advice from the more experienced magi?
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Wow, I was a bit dramatic there. Acting like my hound dog died or somethin'.


I'm having a blast enjoying being single and flirting with women. I've got a great family, friends, work full time, about to graduate from college and I still love magic. No bitter taste. LOL..


If anyone is going true a rough patch just remember that things never stay the same. Keep moving forward!

Sincerely,
Message: Posted by: MagicSanta (Jun 15, 2009 12:33AM)
Dude, I just looked at your new photo, if you manage to even get a girl I advise you keep her no matter what.
Message: Posted by: Douglas Lippert (Jun 15, 2009 08:03AM)
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On 2009-06-15 01:33, MagicSanta wrote:
Dude, I just looked at your new photo, if you manage to even get a girl I advise you keep her no matter what.
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Thanks for the advice, you ball busting old dog, you! :)
Message: Posted by: Mr. Mystoffelees (Jun 15, 2009 10:19AM)
I am really starting to worry about myself, MagicSanta is starting to make me laugh!

Good to see you are coming round, Doug. After all, "a woman is only woman" and no matter what MagicSanta says, you can always buy a cigar...
Message: Posted by: Douglas Lippert (Jun 15, 2009 06:53PM)
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On 2009-06-15 11:19, mandarin wrote:
Good to see you are coming round, Doug. After all, "a woman is only woman" and no matter what MagicSanta says, you can always buy a cigar...
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Hey mandarin, what do you mean by "you can always buy a cigar" ?

Take care,
Message: Posted by: Mr. Mystoffelees (Jun 15, 2009 06:56PM)
Rudyard Kipling:

"A woman is only a woman... but a good cigar is a smoke!"
Message: Posted by: ed rhodes (Jun 15, 2009 09:38PM)
Sigmund Freud:

"Sometimes a cigar is just a cigar!"
Message: Posted by: MagicSanta (Jun 15, 2009 09:50PM)
Horton to his religious father on Paint Your Wagon (the greatest movie ever made):
"Believe me, until you've had a good cigar and a shot of whiskey, you're missing the second and third best things in life."
Message: Posted by: Carrie Sue (Jun 16, 2009 08:05AM)
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On 2009-05-29 00:27, Doug Lippert wrote:
Anyone know any good break up songs? Only one I can think of is Eamon (I don't want you back).
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One More Minute by "Weird Al" Yankovic.

Carrie
Message: Posted by: Mr. Mystoffelees (Jun 16, 2009 08:08AM)
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On 2009-06-15 22:38, ed rhodes wrote:
Sigmund Freud:

"Sometimes a cigar is just a cigar!"
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Well, Sig was trying to do things with the cigar that it wasn't meant to do. You are supposed to SMOKE them...


Not to mention, RK specified a GOOD cigar...

Jim
Message: Posted by: Douglas Lippert (Jun 16, 2009 08:52AM)
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On 2009-06-16 09:05, Carrie Sue wrote:
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On 2009-05-29 00:27, Doug Lippert wrote:
Anyone know any good break up songs? Only one I can think of is Eamon (I don't want you back).
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One More Minute by "Weird Al" Yankovic.

Carrie
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LOL..thanks Carrie. That song is hilarious.
Message: Posted by: sweetypie2019 (Jun 16, 2009 10:30AM)
This is my favorite...

http://www.imeem.com/zoomrix/music/tpBCrzBX/weird-al-yankovic-since-youve-been-gone/
Message: Posted by: MagicSanta (Jun 16, 2009 01:38PM)
Use a song from the album Son of Nelson, I believe the title is You're Breakin' My heart.
Message: Posted by: Douglas Lippert (Jun 16, 2009 07:42PM)
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On 2009-06-16 14:38, MagicSanta wrote:
Use a song from the album Son of Nelson, I believe the title is You're Breakin' My heart.
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Son of Schmilsson and that's a good song.