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Your friend is in my thoughts...
This universe is a place filled with such terrible unjustices and I fear that we'll never be able to deal with them. I devoted a large part of my life trying to figure out ways of cope with "sickness and loss". Unfortunately we're only human. All that I can say is cliché and I know it must sound awful. Perhaps it's true what they say and all we can do is love each other while we may.
This doesn't solve anything, I know. The thought doesn't satisfy me either. But it's all we have.
I really, really feel for you, mate.
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Dpe, I don't know you but I can feel your pain. I had a premature son who only lived for four months. I can understand the anger you are feeling right now. Please don't do anything rash. Don't seek "revenge" the best thing you can do is spend every moment focusing on her. Spend as much time as you can with her and her daughter. If you focus on him you won't be focusing on her and you will regret that later.
You want us to pray, so obviously you believe in some sort of god. (even if you are mad at him right now) I remember when my son died that I prayed hard, and it wasn't in very nice language. I swore, and yelled and swore, and yelled even more. But he still listened, after I had calmed down he gave me a portion of peace, I don't think I'll ever be compleatly over it, but I don't think I should be either. I don't know or care what religion you are but know that if there is a god then He will listen. So I will pray for Tammy and yourself, but you should let out your feelings to him as well, all of them, even the "Inappropriate" ones.
Spend time with her.
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That's terrible news. Forget about the vengeance. He's taken enough already, don't even give him a thought. Plus, if your revenge goes to far, the cops will trace your activities to this thread.
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Just prayed for Tammy.

Consider seeking some alternative physicians. A second opinion, if that has not already been done. I learned first-hand that you still call the person who graduated last in his/her class at med school "Doctor".

Many people are helped by alternative medicine or simply a Dr. who knows something the first one does not. It really can make a difference in many cases.
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I know that this won't come as any consolation right now but at least you will have time to say a proper goodbye and help her get things in order. I heard a news report once on nurses who worked in a hospice. At first all of them thought that it would be a horrible place to work as they were constantly surrounded by the dead and dying. They all soon realized that though sad, knowing that you were in your last months of your life was far easier for everyone involved to deal with than it was for those who had loved ones die suddenly through accidents and sudden illnesses.
Those who lost loved ones suddenly felt greater loss as they didn't have time to come to terms with their loved ones deaths and always felt that there was unfinished business that needed to be addressed.
No one gets out of this life alive and isn't it better to live and die amongst Friends and loved ones?
I don't pray but I hope these last few months are full of life and love.

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Wise words, Payne.

In the past year I have lot two good friends. One to a sudden, tragic motorcycle accident and one to a 6 month battle with cancer. While both deaths were tragic, the aftermath of the one with cancer was much easier on the family. They had one last Christmas together, the family came from all over to share the final months. The other family felt that there was too much left undone, too much left unsaid.
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On 2007-09-27 23:54, dpe666 wrote:
I just talked to her. She saw the doctor today. They gave her no later than January. F***!!!


My thoughts and prayers are with you my unseen friend.

I heard the words, "You have 6 months to live" at the tender age of 17...

I'm approaching 37 now.

Miracles DO happen....They really do.

Regardless if a miracle happens or not...Be with Tammy and her daughters...Play silly games...Take long walks....Go to the Zoo and look at the beauty of the Wild Animals...Go see a stupid movie....Eat Ice Cream for dinner (if her digestive system can handle it)....

In other words, let her LIVE the small amount of LIFE she has left with JOY.

And for yourself (which I sense you are NOT thinking of right now, but really should be...)...

DO NOT BLAME YOURSELF FOR NOT KNOWING!

She kept it from you....It's what women do, let it be what it is....

You can not change a thing, you have to 'play the cards you've been dealt'...

Best advice: Play them well.

May my God Bless you and your friend and her daughters in this very sad time.

Your friend and brother,

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She died tonight.
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May God bless Tammy, her daughters, and you.

My sincerest condolences.
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Not much I can say. You are in my thoughts.
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Nothing I can say will ease the pain you feel. I'll pray for her and for you. You are obviously a great friend.

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On 2008-03-09 01:17, dpe666 wrote:
She died tonight.


****.

Do us all a favor and tell us something beautiful about her.

Jeff
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I'm sorry for your loss.
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On 2008-03-09 06:56, stoneunhinged wrote:

Do us all a favor and tell us something beautiful about her.

Jeff


Yes. Please do when you have the time and feel like it.

Best,

Tim
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David,

I'm really sorry to hear that. Hang in there. If you need a bit of the geographical cure, my couch is free.

Mark
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I am very sorry to hear of this loss. You are in my thoughts.

John
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The ceremony of innocence is drowned;
The best lack all conviction, while the worst
Are full of passionate intensity.--Yeats
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May the soul(s) of the faithful departed, through the mercy of God, rest in peace.
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God bless you all, you're in my prayers.

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Rest assured there ARE real angels...I know.

That means everything else Bible related is REAL too.

I'm married to a very large size woman (LOVE her this way) so I can share your feelings toward anyone that would say things like that. Also be assured that the ONE that caused this has his fate in eternity "waiting" as he will find out.

My prayers are with you also
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Dave,

You, Tammy and Tammy's daughter are in my thoughts. Please give Tammy's daughter a hug for all of us...and take care of her. She needs you now more than ever. Both Tammy and her daughter are lucky you were (and are) there.

Although it is too painful to consider now, later, as the pain starts to recede, you might find comfort in the serendipitous fact that you were able (and allowed) to be there and have the privilege to aid, assist and provide much needed help and comfort to other human beings. Humanity took another step forward these last 9 months.

Thanks for being there.

Mike
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