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DanielMooncalf Regular user Kansas City 113 Posts |
After my show, today; the girl asked if she could hug me. Then... she looked toward her mom and said, more quietly... "Can I go home with you? You're nice."
Now I have all these thoughts suggesting that she might not be safe at home. My rational side keeps wanting to tell me that this is just a silly kid thing, and I should dismiss it as such. What do you all think? |
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themagiciansapprentice Inner circle Essex, UK 1381 Posts |
Normally a very happy kid
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Mindpro Eternal Order 10603 Posts |
May just be a happy kid that's a satisfied customer. However, I can truly relate as years ago after a performance a young girl can up to me after a show as I was breaking down and said something almost identical then proceeded to hug my leg, tightly, not letting go. I later found out there were in fact problems at home with the problematic and abusive parents. I'm not saying for sure in your situation, but you never know, your thoughts may have merit.
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Jestnjoker Elite user 440 Posts |
"Better safe than sorry" may certainly apply here. But the question is, what would the next step be?
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DanielMooncalf Regular user Kansas City 113 Posts |
Maybe an anon call to some sort of protective services.
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wbzwolinski Loyal user 232 Posts |
This is a tough one. Do you know who these folks are? How would you be able to inquire about them?
If this took place at a school show you would be able to ask the teacher if this was out of the ordinary for this child. Sorry ...I don't seem to be of much help.
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*Mark Lewis* V.I.P. 1325 Posts |
Not exactly a lot of evidence, is there?
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Magnus Eisengrim Inner circle Sulla placed heads on 1053 Posts |
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On 2011-07-23 22:21, Mark Lewis wrote: Precisely!
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TomBoleware Inner circle Hattiesburg, Ms 3171 Posts |
I agree, not a lot to go on. Kids do often want things they can't have. Not unusual for a child to fall in love with someone they see as a star. That's why they're easy prey for the bad.
Still, it is a bad situation to be in when you have a gut feeling about something like this. By the way, some professionals such as doctors, teachers, childcare providers, etc, are protected by law from any recourse in reporting child abuse. Individuals are not. So you do have to be careful with parenting advice. Tom
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The Mighty Fool Inner circle I feel like a big-top tent having 2140 Posts |
Mabye if youd asked a question like "Sure, I'm nice, but you LOVE your parents right?" And gauge her answer & tone.
Everybody wants to beleive.....we just help them along.
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Magnus Eisengrim Inner circle Sulla placed heads on 1053 Posts |
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On 2011-07-24 04:24, The Mighty Fool wrote: You are not a social worker or a child psychologist, and you have no business investigating. If something concerns you, contact the local authorities and let professionals do the work of professionals. You are not qualified to begin investigating and you risk harming the child that you have concerns for. John
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*Mark Lewis* V.I.P. 1325 Posts |
I don't think anyone is going to investigate on such weak evidence anyway. Does the person who booked you for the show know anything about the family? But you had better be careful in your enquiries. This could get out of hand. And the parents could be completely innocent anyway.
It should be remembered that parents have had their lives turned upside down by false accusations like this in the past. You really need more than a gut feeling set off by a chance remark from a child, I am afraid. |
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Mr. Pitts Inner circle David Pitts 1058 Posts |
I've had this sort of thing happen before and I don't think it means much besides the kid liked you and maybe she's mad at her mom, at that moment. Maybe her mom scolded her a few minutes before. What I'm reading here doesn't make a red flag go up for me. I wasn't there, but you really have nothing to go on, and you could easily do more harm than good pursuing this. Your rational side is probably worth listening to, it usually is.
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Potty the Pirate Inner circle 4632 Posts |
Sounds like perfectly normal behaviour for a kid. I'm often hugged by the kids, and frankly, I'm far more concerned about the way folks perceive my reactions. I always respond, but in a distinctly friendly manner. I don't hug them back, and I don't encourage this kind of physical contact. If a kid says they want to go home with you, I also don't see this as any indication whatsoever that there may be family troubles. In my opinion, even considering "investigation" is dangerous ground.
We are there to entertain, nothing more. If you start to think you're some kind of social worker, you need to get real, quickly! After all, Social Workers are notoriously bad at understanding the real issues with family life, even though that's their job. Entertainers should steer well clear, unless a child says something that really does tell you they have problems. And, in that event, you should only find out their name, and pass the information on. I would choose to tell the NSPCC in the UK, because I have first-hand experience with Social Workers, and they are over-worked, under-paid, scared to act in case they might make an error....in fact, they are just about useless. Potty |
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TomFoolery New user Gloucester 83 Posts |
My eldest daughter is a daddies girl, if her mum picks her up from playgroup she will make a scene, cry and scream anything to stay with her favourite playleader, when I pick her up she runs over to me with her arms wide and I get a big hug and a kiss. Now my younger daughter is the total opposite she just wants mummy her words "Don't want daddy I want mummy DON'T WANT DADDY WANT MUMMY".
This will get louder and louder a little embarrassing oh and the funny looks we both get from the members of the public. Tom |
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DanielMooncalf Regular user Kansas City 113 Posts |
Okay... I was just overthinking it, but wanted to be certain. Thanks.
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TonyB2009 Inner circle 5006 Posts |
I would immediately report it to the authorities. Not a chance I would let this one go. Far better to make a bad call than to walk away from a potentially worse situation.
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MeetMagicMike Inner circle Gainesville Fl 3504 Posts |
Really Tony? This isn't too little evidence. This is absolutely no evidence.
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Potty the Pirate Inner circle 4632 Posts |
I can't imagine you're serious, Tony? The "authorities" would do absolutely nothing with such flimsy evidence (in fact, just a "feeling" that there may be issues). There are so many cases of genuine, established child abuse and incompetent parenting, that a report like that would just be filed, and forgotten. As it is, Social Services can only deal with the worst cases, they have to make subjective decisions about which cases they will take seriously, and those they will do little or nothing about. That's why there have been such dreadful errors in the past - such as the case of Baby P.
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ColinDymond Special user Gloucestershire, England 675 Posts |
If it were at a play group or school you could mention it to those incharge.
It a touch one, what if your piece of information became one of those things that with hindsight you wish you'd mentioned?
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