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iwillfoolu
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So a lady today, after being told that I was done making balloons, loudly proclaimed "Don't call me babe, I'm not your wife."

I never called her any such thing and got pretty embarrassed. I am guessing she misheard me or something, but it was a very awkward situation. I guess it's also possible she was being manipulative, but regardless of what really happened, do you have any tips for the future in similar circumstances?

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A punch in the gut and say "sorry hun"?
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Well my natural reaction would be a look of puzzlement and said "ahhhh.. I didn't call you that, sorry you have misheard what I said" - if you don't do anything people will assume you did.
If she insists, then you let it drop and tell her to have a good day - anyone can see she was a nutcase but I firmly believe in defending yourself first
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And you could have also replied "if I had called you babe boy would MY wife have been mad, sorry I think you may have misheard me".

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Good thing you didn't ask her to make you a sandwich.

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On 2013-09-21 23:48, JoshLondonMagic wrote:
Good thing you didn't ask her to make you a sandwich.

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Never overlook the value of a punch in the gut.
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On his new DVD, Danny Orleans tells a story of a teacher (I think it was a teacher) saying "Please leave out that one line because it was offensive." When he was doing the Miser's Dream and said, "I'll pull a coin out of your EAR," the teacher and others thought he said "REAR." Danny has since reworked his patter so this didn't happen again.

You might want to revisit what you thought you said and consider changing your patter.

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On 2013-09-21 21:18, iwillfoolu wrote:
So a lady today, after being told that I was done making balloons, loudly proclaimed "Don't call me babe, I'm not your wife."

I never called her any such thing and got pretty embarrassed. I am guessing she misheard me or something, but it was a very awkward situation. I guess it's also possible she was being manipulative, but regardless of what really happened, do you have any tips for the future in similar circumstances?

Joey D


Joey, she's crazy. I hope you're not doing a gig for her. She'll make your time miserable.
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This would have been one of those "wish I had said" moments if it happened to me. I would have WIHS "I'm sorry you must have misunderstood me. I called you a big blue haired ox, but I never would have called you Babe!"
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I would simply say "I apologize for making that mistake please forgive me". Some bit***s want to have total control and I know the drill.
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A reaction like that makes me wonder a bit. Part of my ability to entertain with magic includes breaking down walls of distrust and building a friendship with the people at the table. This effort begins before I even approach the table and begins with the atmosphere I create before I get there. Before I even perform a trick for them, I'm generally already on my way to having them perceive me as...

1) ...part of the establishment....I work there and am not some stranger hustling for tips.
2) ...someone who is friendly - smile and laugh with them.
3) ...not odd or a social misfit - this is influenced by how I dress, diction, vocabulary, eye contact, self confidence, etc.
4) ...someone who is there to help them enjoy their visit
5) ...not some guy desperate for an audience for his lame trick
6) ...someone who all the other tables seem to enjoy -- as perceived by applause, bursts of laughter, etc.

With all of that said, by the time that I leave the table, they are friends. If they did think that I said something like "Babe", then they'd not be offended.

Of course, there will always be the one person each month or so who's hemorrhoid problems make them uptight with everyone. She was likely that person. However, if a person doesn't warm up to me, then I have to review the above 6 things to see if I've gone wrong somewhere.
Howie Diddot
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Well... was she a "Babe"?
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Bigotry is alive and well.
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On Nov 2, 2014, Michaelmystic2003 wrote:
Bigotry is alive and well.


Your point?

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I just loom at them and say, "Sorry you misunderstood me, but dead girls are more fun."
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Sounds like she was testing you. Next time say " Sorry, you're right, you're not a babe."
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On May 28, 2015, Wardy wrote:
Sounds like she was testing you. Next time say " Sorry, you're right, you're not a babe."


This was my first thought about the story too.
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