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On Dec 14, 2015, stoneunhinged wrote:
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On Dec 14, 2015, S2000magician wrote:
No.

Max, not sum.

Max was 15 years, 15 of which were a mistake.


Were you young and impressionable? Say, 19?

I was much smarter; I didn't get married until I was 20.

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Less than two years with my wife, Julia, who somehow--against all imaginable odds--seems to love an unhinged person. I love her more than I could ever express, even with a proofreader.

Marriage suits me. That's why I keep working at it. I think I've got it right this time.

Good for you!
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We have 40 years in. She was only 17 at the time.
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Eight years as of last October. What else can I say, I'd just be echoing most of your sentiments.
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47 years here.

Loved what my Friend Charlie always said. He is still married to the same woman not sure how long now. But when asked he would respond with say let us say, "50 years and still in love with the same woman, and if my wife finds out she will kill me".
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37 years! An interesting story; my wife and I were both members of a local theater group (The Newport Players Guild, now defunct :sad:) When we got married in New York City, word got back to the Theater Group and they started a pool as to how long it was going to last. Nobody had more than three years in the pool! The interesting thing is, of all the people that are still alive in that group, not a single one of them is still married to the person THEY were married to 37 years ago!
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My wife and I just celebrated 25 years married together.

My dad learned a good lesson about himself. After 4 marriages failed, he has been NOT married to his lady friend for 32 years.
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16 years and counting.
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My dad would always answer that question with, "Since the crucifixion."
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Question for all you fellas with long-lasting, successful marriages: What's the secret?
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I asked a fella that at my show one night. He looked at me serious as could be and said "she won't die."
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Question for all you fellas with long-lasting, successful marriages: What's the secret?


1. Make sure your spouse is also your best friend.
2. Communicate openly on EVERYTHING.
3. Band together against adversity and SOLVE problems AS THEY ARE; don't attack or blame each other.
4. Put each other before family or friends.
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Question for all you fellas with long-lasting, successful marriages: What's the secret?


I'm sure you'll get contradictory advice here.

1. You can never un-say something. Hold your temper and hold your tongue. Nobody feels good about vicious words after they are spoken.

2. Spend nice time together. A walk. Dinner. A show. Make sure your happiest times are together. If either of you is feeling miserable,then it's probably a good time for a bit of isolated quiet.

3. Be prepared for hard times--sickness, death in the family, financial setbacks. They are inevitable. But with patience and perseverance they are always followed by good times. Anybody can make it through good times. It's the hard times that make or break us.
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Question for all you fellas with long-lasting, successful marriages: What's the secret?

Many years ago my wife and I worked at the same company. We'd carpool together (allowing us to use the carpool lane on the jammed 55 freeway, a real blessing), and have lunch together a few times each week.

One day, a coworker asked me, "How can you stand to be around your wife 24 hours a day?"

My reply: Why would you consider marrying anyone you didn't enjoy being around 24 hours a day?

So . . . secret #1: marry your best friend.

Before we got married we had to have marriage counseling from the pastor who did the ceremony. It was to be at least four 2-hour sessions in which he would describe the sorts of things affianced couples should discuss before marriage, then we would discuss them. Children, careers, church, budgeting, sex, where to live, politics . . . everything.

We settled in for the first session, he described the approach (as mentioned above), and brought up the first topic.

We replied that we'd already discussed that (whatever it was), and had decided thus-and-such.

He said OK, how about this topic.

Again, we'd already discussed it, and we told him our decision.

During the next 20 minutes he went through his entire (8-hour) list of topics, and for each we explained that we'd already discussed it and described our decision.

Within half an hour, we'd covered everything on his list. Trying to find something to occupy the remaining 90 minutes of that day's session, he said, "Well, what if Marlana's mother lost her job and had to come live with you?"

In perfect harmony, we replied, "No way!" I added that I would get a second job if I had to, to be able to pay for an apartment for her.

"Wow! You guys really have discussed everything!"

So . . . secret #2: talk to each other, and really know each other.

In April, 2001, my dear, sweet wife told me that we were going to start taking horseback riding lessons. She'd lived near horses while in middle school and would go riding every day.

"Oh, we are, are we?"

"Yes, we are."

The following Saturday, as we were driving to the stables, I was telling myself, "I can do this for a month, then figure out some way to get out of it."

It took me about 15 minutes to fall in love with riding horses. Today, I cannot imagine our life without our horses.

So . . . secret #3: expect that things will change, and be open to the idea.

Beyond that, I'd say that both spouses (spice?) need to be committed to staying married, and be willing to work at it.

So . . . secret #4: marriage takes a lot of work; expect it, and plan on it.

The last one's pretty simple: secret #5: at least once every day, tell your spouse that you love him or her. And mean it.
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On Dec 18, 2015, arthur stead wrote:
Question for all you fellas with long-lasting, successful marriages: What's the secret?

Beyond that, I'd say that both spouses (spice?)
The last one's pretty simple: secret #5: at least once every day, tell your spouse that you love him or her. And mean it.

You inadvertently stated my mantra... Keep some spice in your relationship.. As your wife did with the horse riding surprise. Keep alive, embrace escapades, and maybe grow old disgracefully.
My wife and myself tell each other we love one another, with a kiss, in the morning when we leave for work, when we get home from work, and last thing at night when we go to bed... It's a nice feeling!
We always have a phone conversation at around about half past one every day. It's roughly round my Mrs' lunch break. Being self employed, I can ring her when I fancy it.
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My secret, in part, can be exemplified by the following classified ad:

FOR SALE:
Encyclopedia Britannica, 20 Volume Set.
A treasure-trove of world knowledge.
Reason for sale: Got married. Wife knows everything.
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