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bcharles New user South Carolina 59 Posts |
ToastMasters - http://www.toastmasters.org might be beneficial to you. If nothing else it will build confidence in speaking and encourage effective communication. These things may help you counteract your shyness and find that you can find common ground and talk to different people across different levels. Hope this helps.
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Hans DeJong New user 13 Posts |
I too can be very awkward in social situations, but once I start performing magic tricks for strangers, it seems to break the ice. My magic has broken many social and cultural barriers when performing in India and Madagascar.
It is interesting to note that many professional magicians started off as shy kids, not making 6 digit salaries in Las Vegas performing their magic. This is a interesting post. Hans |
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Niko Special user England 599 Posts |
Have a few drinks before you go perform. You should lighten up then!
-Niko
When you do something right, people won't be sure you've done anything at all.
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dynamiteassasin Inner circle Naval Air Facility, Atsugi, Japan 1158 Posts |
We have the same problem! I too am a very shy person. Before I did strolling magic, It would take me a day before I could have the guts to approach a bystander.
I just had to have many experiences, taking one step at a time. Then, I suddenly noticed I'm not that shy anymore. Just have confidence in your magic. It will get you through. have fun in magic! |
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Luke Sherratt Loyal user The Isle Of Wight, England 246 Posts |
Hello MagicalArtist, I used to be very shy when I was younger I could hardly look at a stranger let alone talk to them but one day I just thought stuff it I am not going to worry about what I say, so my advice to you is to just throw caution to the wind say anything. When I first started performing I thought you had to be all bussiness like whilst in the middle of a trick but people would ask me things like how long I have been performing or where I live just normall things and I would answer and I found that most people are so interested in you because they don't see a magician everyday that conversation becomes easy I would just say whatever popped into my mind within reason and as long as it made some sort of sense. After a while I found that people found me funny so that was another boost and became even easier. Now it is as if I was never shy, Now I perform all the time on stages, doing close up anything I someone asks to see a trick I can just do it, I also do stand up comedy now, and I also act on stage. So next time your at a show and someone asks you where your from answer them and then ask where there from and when they answer say something like "Oh it's nice there" even if you have never been there make it up just to make converstion.
I hope you find all the info from everyone that has posted some help, Best, Luke
We're 106 miles from Chicago, we have a full tank of gas, half a pack of cigarettes, it's dark and we're wearing sunglasses
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MagicalArtist Veteran user Hobart, Indiana 378 Posts |
Interesting idea, Niko, but I read about a study that found that drinks do NOT make shy people open up, but instead makes them close up even more! It only makes them think they were more outgoing. I guess that's why they say it can cloud one's judgment. Maybe this is why alcohol is popular; a lot of people are somewhat shy and they're looking for that "magic" (if you pardon the expression) cure! Also, of course, you can't drive to your gig when intoxicated.
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Steve Friedberg Inner circle 1402 Posts |
Firedice's advice from April is spot on; your performance as a magician should not cover merely the effects themselves...it should cover all of your performance...from the time you step onto your stage (whatever it is) until you leave.
There's an old rule that the best conversationalists let others talk more than they do. You don't need to be the one making the small talk. Let them do it for you; just listen to what they're saying, and it will invariably give you an opening to take the discussion to the next step, or lead to another effect. Best of luck.
Cheers,
Steve "A trick does not fool the eyes, but fools the brain." -- John Mulholland |
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HARRISFAMILYMAGIC New user Atlanta Ga. 3 Posts |
I have always been a shy person by nature, however like yourself when Im performing I do just fine. The good thing is that we are not alone, many people who become not only magicians but actors, singers even those working comedy clubs are rather shy. I have learned to let this work for me not aganist me. It was my shyness that won the heart of my wife over 30 years ago. I had much rather be a shy magician then one thst is totally full of themselves. I always am up front about being shy, and most people understand that. So just be yourself.
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diamondjack New user orlando,fl 59 Posts |
According to the myers-briggs personality test I am an INTJ(introverted,intuitive,thinking,judging). after looking at some of the famous INTJ's both real and fictional, I was happy to find I was in good company.Gandalf and aragorn from lord of the rings,and even God is an INTJ.
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Niko Special user England 599 Posts |
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On 2004-08-19 15:41, diamondjack wrote: Lol! I did this test too... I think I was ESTP or something. I have to say I agree with it too. How did you find out God was an INTJ?! -Niko
When you do something right, people won't be sure you've done anything at all.
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Shane Wiker Inner circle Las Vegas 1199 Posts |
I took the test and I am also an INTJ.
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papillion New user North Wales 9 Posts |
At least you all have the courage to get up and perform. I have very little self-confidence, and although I love magic, I don’t feel that I could ever perform for anyone.
I’ve just joined the local magic club, and am dreading having to do my debut performance. Does anyone have any tips? Thank you |
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Franz-O New user Toronto, Canada 66 Posts |
Heh.. I took two tests and I ended up one as ISTJ and as ISTP.. I guess IST is pretty consistent with me you guys should try this. some things DO make sense
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MagicalArtist Veteran user Hobart, Indiana 378 Posts |
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]I’ve just joined the local magic club, and am dreading having to do my debut performance. Does anyone have any tips? I may be the wrong one to give advice here, but I have also suffered from terrible pre performance jitters. It took me a long time to discover the solution. But the only solution I have found is to get out and perform. The more shows you do, the less serious your anxiety will be. That's because when you do very few shows , each individual show is a monumental event . But when you do a lot of shows, each individual show becomes a smaller part of the overall picture and seems less important. You can't fool your subconscious mind. If you're not sure of your abilities, your subconscious mind will know it and cause you anxiety. When you do a lot of shows, you know subconsciously that you can perform your act without making any serious mistakes. However, this tip works best when you do the exact same show over and over again. If you have to change your act each time youperform, as you do at a monthly magic meeting, this technique probably will not work as well. You never have a chance to truely master your act and so you still feel anxiety. The best way to build up your confidence is to do the same act many many times for different audiences. |
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papillion New user North Wales 9 Posts |
That makes sense. I suppose once I have done the first performance I will realise that it isn't such a big deal.
I'll just have to pluck up the courage and do it. Thanks for the advice. |
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Michael Taggert Special user Fredericksburg Virginia 656 Posts |
A good way to feel comfortable in social situations is practice. start with group of friends that you already feel comfortable with then expand slowly, good conversation takes practice and is a s much about listening as it is being the life of the party. Just listening to the people with a few cordialities now and then you will find that someone else will take the lead in the conversation and then simply being polite will get you through. I also agree with toastmasters as they realy know the ins and outs of conversation.
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Daegs Inner circle USA 4291 Posts |
Can a guy afraid of heights work at the top of buildings as a construction worker?
Probably, with a lot of work, but it wouldn't be the best fit. |
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Werner G. Seitz Inner circle 3131 Posts |
>Can a shy guy be a performing magician?
Of course he can..I've known/do know a couple of very experienced and great performers, who in private where shy people... When being on-stage doing their act, they are *another* person...and they enjoy to be so..they enjoy performing and this always shows.
Learn a few things well.....this life is not long enough to do everything.....
( Words of wisdom from Albert Goshman ...it paid off for him - it might as well for YOU!!!- My own magic is styled after that motto... ) |
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King Of Pop Veteran user Estonia 392 Posts |
I am a shy person and I perform, so I think shy persons can perform magic
God Bless You, I Love You From The Bottom Of My Heart
God Bless You, I Love You From The Bottom Of My Heart
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edh Inner circle 4698 Posts |
I also am very shy. but the more I practice the effect the more confidence I gain. Practicing in front of your friends/relatives gives great practice.
edh
Magic is a vanishing art.
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